4 things you need to know about moving on after a relationship

Don’t fight it…Embrace the Journey

Moving on encompasses more than just changing physical locations; it’s about transitioning emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Whether it’s leaving behind a relationship that no longer serves you or stepping out of your comfort zone to pursue new opportunities, it’s a bold step towards personal growth.  I found this to be extremely difficult at first, like many people, and the shift that I experienced in my life changed the world as I knew it.  It was harder if I tried to resist it and started to find ways to accept what was happening to me and around me.  What I didn’t realise at the time was that this was me experiencing growth.

Who are you? Rediscover Yourself

As part of this growth, one of the most beautiful aspects of moving on is the opportunity to rediscover yourself. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of our passions, dreams, and desires. In my own journey, I had no idea who I was anymore as my time and energy was focussed on improving the lives of other people and doing things for other people. This was my wake-up call!  Moving on allows us to reconnect with who we are at our core, independent of external influences. It’s a chance to explore new hobbies, revisit old interests, and redefine our sense of self.  In my coaching practice this is at the heart of my work with my clients, because once we truly know ourselves, we can begin to understand other aspects of our lives (relationships, work, behaviours).

 That little thing…Independence

After a breakup or a divorce, many people can find things such as making decisions and becoming self-sufficient difficult.  This is particularly the case if there has been a very long or unhealthy relationship with one partner relying on the other.  Over time this has chipped away at the confidence of the individual.  Initially this can be very difficult, and people can find themselves asking friends and family about every decision they are going to make.  Changing this is a gradual process, starting with small decisions which you make for yourself.  I found that mindset was very important when I was experiencing this, telling yourself you can do it will slowly rebuild your confidence and self-assurance. 

Moving on provides the perfect opportunity to cultivate independence in all areas of life. From making decisions about your career and finances to learning how to enjoy your own company, every step taken towards independence is a victory in itself.

 Yep…self-love

The profound aspect of moving on is learning to love yourself unconditionally. It's about recognising your worth, embracing your flaws, and celebrating your strengths. Self-love is the foundation upon which all other aspects of personal growth are built. When you learn to love and accept yourself fully, you become unstoppable in your pursuit of happiness and fulfilment.  Many people struggle with this at first, how can you love yourself when, at times, it feels like your world is crashing down around you?  It isn’t easy.  I found that recognising the fact that I wanted to do this was a step in the right direction, when I recognised this and embraced it, doors began to open which allowed me to meet remarkable people and truly embrace me.  If you cannot truly love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?

Moving on is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It's a reminder that no matter how difficult life may seem, there is always hope on the horizon. So, to everyone out there embarking on this journey, embrace it wholeheartedly. The best is yet to come.